Stigma and Social Identity
Why is it even though after the handicap so removed we still aren’t considered normal?
Every person on this earth has some sort of handicap, are we hypocritical for judging others?
Alright, another article
on modifying our personalities to be “right” and fit into the social scene and why we as humans go to extremes
to meet those standards that are set up before us. Let me summarize quickly,
we as humans need interaction to develop mentally and socially. It is done subconsciously for the most part, but the action
of fitting in and the decisions made to fit in are very much so conscious decisions.
I admit I’m not perfect
at everything. Actually I’m not perfect anything. I am very talented in some areas and in other areas you could say
I have a handicap. For example I have never been very good at waterskiing, and for the society (group of friends) that have
lived on the water see it as a handicap because it comes so natural to them. But one summer I thought I got pretty good, but
to them I still was handicapped in the world of waterskiing, only because they had seen me when I wasn’t good. Let me
generalize this now. Lets say an individual comes in to a new society and the vast majority of the society is really really
good at cooking, you happen to be a terrible cook and they witness this one afternoon while you try to make dinner for a group
of friends. Over the next several months you take some cooking classes and do a complete three-sixty, and can cook so complicated
recipes. You once again cook dinner for that same group of friends and they are wowed by the food, but you still have the
label as the guy “that couldn’t cook and now he sort of can”. I honestly think there is only one way to
get out of this situation, find another society (group of friends) that their emphasis isn’t cooking and suddenly the
“handicap” is gone.
Who the hell are we to
judge others? Seriously. We are no better or any worse than any other. We all
are unique and different. And is that a bad thing? No, because if we were all the same, can you imagine how lame that would
be. I don’t care if some man on the street is blind, know what? He can
probably hear better and feel things with his hands a lot better than the healthy forty-something year old. We all have handicaps
so we can focus on something else and be better at that. Why do people associate handicaps with a negative perspective? They
are not! They simply allow us to concentrate our talents else where.
So I think we all are hypocrites,
if you once judge someone or give someone special attention because of their “handicap” you need to shut up, because
you’re simply calling the kettle black. I wish everyone could have enough self-confidence to take pride at what they
are good at, work at what their not, and praise those who are better than us at a specific task.